It’s been a couple of entries since I’ve honed in on a particular topic. I thought it’s time I’d bless my readers so Merry Xmas, Happy Hanukkah. Shalom. You’re welcome (:
Today I’ve been thinking that in order to get the life you want, to get the treatment you deserve, you’ve got to create the environment for that to happen. Good things don’t just happen to good people, they happen to bad people too. Likewise, bad things happen to good people. I pondered on the whys of this and decided, you have to teach people how to treat you, or you have to start creating the situations to benefit yourself. That might seem myopic in its decisiveness, but Maya Angelou once said, “if you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.” If you’re a nice person who is always helping someone else and you’re getting the doormat treatment, you’re going to continue to get the doormat treatment. Why? Because you’ve given a person no incentive to treat you how you should be treated. You haven’t taught them that this is not okay with me. Yes, the person should know what they are doing is wrong; but as life would have it, people get comfortable. Or if you work hard in your job, and you feel that it’s going unnoticed. How does wallowing help you? You’ve got to create that environment you want. If it means pointing out to your boss how indispensable you are, or finding another situation that is going to give you the recognition you deserve, then do it.
I thought about my different life experiences, be it work, friendships, or relationships. I began to consider my accountability. I’m not the kind of person who see fits to create a daily bulletin when I feel upset or wronged about something. I’ve always looked at it as a sign of weakness or complaining, and if there is one thing I can’t stand…it’s complaining. As I’ve gotten older, I realized that was a weakness in itself. I always found myself stewing, and who does that help? No one. Who does it hurt? Me. Holding things in prevents you from facing the tough things in life that upset you. Throwing things under the rug or ignoring it, never changes the situation and it doesn’t encourage a solution. It just temporarily conceals it to be dealt with on another day, sometimes during inopportune moments. So speak up. If it doesn’t change the situation, so be it. But if it gets it off your chest and that release helps you to move on, do better, be better, etc. Do it.
I believe there is more to be said for life than being a victim of your circumstances. Rather than dwelling, take your dignity back, and create some positivity for yourself. No one else can do that for you, only you can.
Maya Angelou said, “I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.” You can either continue to stay stuck, or you can make lemonade out of the lemons of life. Ask God, if you’re a believer, or ask life for what you want, and then be prepared to get it.
“If I am not good to myself, how can I expect anyone else to be good to me?”
― Maya Angelou
Think about it.
I wish everyone a great week. Stay blessed, stay positive, and love yourself,