Video: Erykah Badu “Bag Lady”
It’s one of those days where I’ve opted to stay home, feng sui, sip wine, and listen to Pandora. Currently as I blog, I’m listening to the Lauryn Hill station. Erykah Badu’s “Bag Lady” is playing in the background and is the source of inspiration for this latest blog entry.
Sometimes it is hard to let go. It’s doubly hard to walk away and make a conscious decision saying f*ck all the bullshit and just go out and get yours and forget about what isn’t, what’s making you sad, what’s causing misery, etc. Doesn’t matter if it’s your job, bad friendship, pointless relationships, revolving door ex, family… Whatever it is, it’s holding you back from peace, from happiness. I guess it’s ironic that I’m writing this entry on New Year’s Eve, but call it kismet. Anyways, I digress.
“Bag lady you gone hurt your back
Dragging all them bags like that
I guess nobody ever told you
All you must hold on to
Is you, is you, is you.”
Haven’t you ever noticed, when you hold on to pain, or constantly think about a situation making you miserable, you literally drive yourself crazy, make yourself sick, or stew in unhappiness. If you would just make a conscious decision to worry about taking care of you, instead of the outside force affecting you, you just might end up alright. “All you must hold on to…is you…is you.”
Sometimes, when you become so wrapped up in the thing holding you back from your joy, be it yourself, banking on potential, ignoring the okey doke, there isn’t any room for the peace, the positivity, the light at the end of the tunnel, or the new thing to make it all right. How can you get your blessing if you’re not ready to receive it? That crutch, the thing you won’t let go of is like an old car in a driveway taking up space. I got a bit of that from Steve Harvey unfortunately lol… Anyways as I was saying, you don’t have any room in your heart, no time to spare, no attention to give because, for example, that guy you keep dating is taking up space, even though you know he’s not the one for you…right now, in the future, or forever…Him, she, it, hanging around your heart, your time, is a cinder block in the damn driveway and “living life” can’t pull in to park.
“One day all them bags gone get in your way
One day all them bags gone get in your way
I said one day all them bags gone get in your way
One Day all them bags gone get in your way.”
Baggage, past or present, is not appealing and is detrimental to the life you want to live. You can miss out on so much because you let baggage cloud your judgement, warp your attitude, or limit you.
“Bag lady you gone miss your bus
You can’t hurry up
Cause you got too much stuff
When they see you comin
They take off runnin
From you…it’s true oh yes they do.”
No one wants to be around a debbie downer. It is not fun. If you’re so wrapped up in your pain, you can also affect someone’s joy. In result, you end up more alone, not just because you’re keeping yourself from the opportunities that could come your way if you were ready to receive them, but also you encourage people stay away from you because you’re depressing.
“Girl I know sometimes it’s hard
And we can’t let go
Or when someone hurts you oh so bad inside
You can’t deny it you can’t stop crying
So oh, oh, oh
If you start breathin
Then you won’t believe it
You’ll feel so much better
(So much better baby).”
Make a conscious decision to let go. Make a conscious decision for yourself. There’s no need to make an announcement, because sometimes that’s just you looking for someone to talk you out of something, consider another alternative that might not work for you, etc. Just do it. Whatever is meant to be will be, but not because you’re holding on to it. It will be because you’ve decided to go out and live, find another alternative, explore your options, make a career change, get another degree…and just let go. And through it all, if it found its way back…changed, at the right time, it would be more meaningful, something renewed, and not the thing you suffered through. #digthat
“So pack light